To Feel is to be Alive
I know how it feels to be disconnected — to crave closeness but not know how to let it in.
To try to love, yet still feel unseen.
To want to express yourself fully in love, in sex, in life… but something keeps holding you back.
By learning to stay with what I feel — instead of escaping it —
I discovered a deeper intimacy, born from presence:
the courage to feel, to open, to connect.
Now I guide others on that same journey — back to their body, heart, and truth.
This is your invitation to be more you, more alive, more connected. To experience intimacy that begins within.
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The Lover Types
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The Addicted Lover
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The Suppressed Lover
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The Liberated Lover
LIBERATED LOVER
A personalized coaching journey for men.
For men ready to stop performing and start feeling.
This is a path to embodied confidence, deeper intimacy, and real connection — with yourself and others.
Join my Free Morning
Pleasure Ritual
Do you often feel stuck in your head, rushing through your day, or disconnected from your body?
This 15-minute guided ritual helps you slow down and reconnect — through breath, touch, and presence.
It’s a simple yet powerful way to awaken your body’s natural aliveness and begin your day in calm, grounded pleasure.
You’ll learn to feel pleasure from within, without external stimulation — nourishing your nervous system and deepening your connection to yourself.
A daily practice to return home to your body, one breath at a time.
Coaching for Couples
Love as a Living Practice.
For couples ready to reconnect beyond words and rediscover each other through presence, breath, and touch.
Learn to communicate your desires, release tension, and rebuild trust and intimacy — in body, heart, and spirit.
About me
I’m Denise Kooij — a trauma-informed and certified Intimacy & Embodiment Coach (VITA Coaching, Layla Martin), trained in somatic facilitation, shadow work, and nervous system regulation.
I guide men, women, and couples to reconnect with their body, emotions, and truth.
My work is rooted in somatic awareness, emotional alchemy, and nervous system attunement — creating a space where everything is welcome.
I don’t teach people how to change; I help them feel what’s real.
Because when you feel safe to be yourself, connection becomes natural.
Ready to Begin?
Book a free Discovery Call to explore if this work is right for you.
Or dive deeper with a Desire Deep Dive — a 90-minute session to explore what you truly long for in love, intimacy, and life.
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